Where’s Waldo…ummm…I mean Dad?

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Childhood is way too short

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Right or wrong? I believe in equality however; I can understand why people don’t like the recent promotion of sexual orientation in the media. It is because of our children, who of coarse; are watching it all.

First of all: Kids should be kids for as long as possible; without tainting their idea of life before they are ready to understand it all for themselves. It is up to us to differentiate the difference. I see the importance of acceptance and everyone is equal in my eyes but; I really do wish that we could keep the promotion part amongst the adults and out of the minds of our children. Life 101 not 1,0001.

A person’s sexual orientation is their business and it should not be of anyone else’s opinion. But; for people flaunting and promoting “gay pride”; it has certainly shown us that we have gone just a little too far. It is not what we want our children to contemplate nor misconstrue. Heck, I don’t want to hear about it myself as I turn on the TV, log onto Facebook or stroll through the videos on Youtube. Sex is an intimate secret that two adults share between themselves and LGBTIQ marriage can be battled without promotional ads etc. It shouldn’t be on the top shelf for children to see. It’s bad enough that we have succumbed to sexual temptation in advertisements and promotions..In which I wish we could stop as well.

When our children turn on the TV today, they see rainbow promotions, gay pride, homosexual commercials and the news. Hello!!!!…Why??!! We parents can’t lock it out like Pay-per-view (PPV) but; we sure wish we could…

Children do not even need to be aware of SEX!!! Unfortunately, some people are not thinking of the kids or they just really don’t care. But a lot of us do care and at times we wish that we could de-select the outside influences the same way that we de-select channels for cable TV. But we can’t.

What do you think? By promoting gay pride, are our children being over-exposed to sexual concepts, over-exposed to sexual imagery and has the media committed offense by over-promoting sexual orientation with serious disregard and exploitation of our children? Can’t we be a little less obvious for their sake? They are exposing children to a new way of thinking: More like opportunities for sexual activities with same sex; as well as an obvious sexual awareness before they are armed with the proper knowledge or balance in life. Let children be children; without us fighting battles in the public eye. Young public eyes. It’s sexual Education at it’s worst.

My granddaughter’s friends spent the night and they were discussing whether or not they will be homosexual or heterosexual and how weird it will be now that some of their friends may be gay or lesbian. Wow, that was just way to much to ingest in that moment. So, I quickly changed the subject with a quick offering of an ice cream sundae. This is what we are teaching our children. These girls still order off of the children’s menu for goodness sake and yet they are seriously seeing this as an opportunity and making decisions about their future already??

Again, I understand the reason for this fight but… What I don’t understand is the people who are pushing it way too far… Who aren’t actually wanting to fight for rights and yet they can’t see what they are doing to the children. I am sure for the most part people are fighting for the right reasons but because of the large scale battle; some of this has really gone out of bounds.

It is pretty scary though to see the influence on children when you go onto Facebook, twitter, tumbler…and any other social media where you see children posting their pics in rainbow colors … to promote LGBT. Really not what we need to accomplish here folks. Do we really want this kind of awareness for our CHILDREN?!

And yes, there’s more: Go to the sticker store on Facebook and the first thing that you see is “pride”. And I’’ve seen my granddaughter’s friends using these very stickers.

I have always explained things to my kids and grandkid and I’ve always taught them that because of the choices that we make; does not make us any different from each other…just unique. No one is worse and no one is better. We are all different and acceptance, is understanding that. It is not up to us to make choices for other people. It is up to us to make choices for ourselves.

I’m so ready for the media to settle down about the issues and let people be who they are without discrimination and without control. Good for everyone. Initially that is what all LGBTIQH (humans) want. So, let’s just make sure that we all don’t lose sight of our values and loose grip of the stability in the lives of all people. In other words: Building new walls should only reinforce old ones.

We Women Must Love Ourselves First, Then Others Will Love Us Back

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Women fall in love and expect to be loved unconditionally. We expect that someone will love us so much that we will love ourselves more because of it. But, what if we don’t. We either expect way too much or not expect anything at all. What if we get taken for granted and treated like we are less than worthy? Why do we count on others to divvy out our self worth? You are the only you that you have. Isn’t that special enough?

We do not grow up in a society that supports or believes women to be strong, determined, faithful and trustworthy. We see it on TV, we see it on shows, we see it on billboards and we see people preaching that women are strong. Are we? Not if we expect others to make us feel strong. This is what makes us women. Why? Because this is what we are taught. This is how we are raised. Unfortunately, television promotions is not our real world. Also, geographical locations differ from one location to another as to how women are treated or …here’s the word…ACCEPTED.

Some women are lucky in love but some who are not lucky in love; slowly find, that their relationship can break down as we are surrounded with men who break us down; even complete strangers. It can be through words, actions, sighs or even looks. Not so subtle for us women. We all know and we all have felt, seen, heard and have been victimized for it. We are women.

Eventually if we stay in an imbalanced relationship, all things wrong is your fault and we are slowly dehumanized. Eventually, we give up; unknowingly, to find ourselves slowly stripped of our own self worth. With little self worth left; we no longer have the strength and break down to any and all criticism as if we are deserve it. Why? Because we are women. We feel and we want and we need; openly. It is our inner and outer beauty.

Sadly, we can lose trust in all males and sometimes; it is carried through to our sons. These sons can pass on the same prejudice against women because his mother succumbed to the devaluation and surrendered her own self worth. Her son can regret or be angered that he was robbed of his Mom, the strong Mother that he needed. His “whole Mom”, that shows him right from wrong and shows him how to truly love a woman; which will ensure him a happy relationship and a true understanding of love.

Motherhood is so important as a woman and strength is vital in raising children to have self worth.

Little girls really need us as an example to be strong in order for them to learn to be strong themselves. We are the examples for our children. They learn through us. If we are not strong, then our children learn from the bottom rather than learn through us in order to become even stronger and better than we are…More able to take on the world. And why do we have to be strong? Why can’t we just be accepted. Well, that is the world today. The men who seemingly are, obviously don’t know how to make a woman happy. Some men are true pillars in this world of injustice and should not be treated as if they are simpletons. These men are our inspiration and our hope. Is it still a “man’s world”? Not really. Are men really happy when their ladies are unhappy? Someone sneered to me about those words: “make a woman happy”. He said: Why do I have to “make” a woman happy. Why can’t I just be “nice” to her? I laughed (accidentally) and said “because, you have to LOooooVE her.” I let that soak in then, I elaborated: “In all relationships, you have to take care of each other. You never have to worry about yourself if she’s got your back. She never has to worry if you’ve got her back. Isn’t it nice when someone always puts you first? It must go both ways. Otherwise, it’s like paddling with one oar…and who likes fishing alone?” Yeah, I left him with that last word to ponder.

Regrets happen and not every marriage can last but we can be happy when we love ourselves. We can change the world; starting with one person … ourselves. We are perfectly imperfect, just the way God made us to be. What a boring world it would be if we were all the same. Like all one color crayon, one style of clothing…and we all know that women would NOT like that. We are creative, we are colorful and we are beautiful … when we let ourselves be happy. We are who we are and nothing will ever change that. If we don’t like who we are, we can learn to love ourselves all over again. That, is how we change the world. That, is how we find our strength. If you are lucky enough to be surrounded by one man that can appreciate our strengths, then, that is all we need from our relationship because: we will always have ourselves to love and to rely on.

We can’t run from ourselves no matter how fast we run. We are a powerhouse that can be intimidating and yes, we are different. We are determined, strong and faithful. If that scares off men; then find a real man who loves all of you or enjoy; just being you. If we can change for anyone; we can change for ourselves to make ourselves happy. If you have to change who you are for a man; then who are you? A healthy relationship consists of two whole people; not two halves.
Be happy today and tell yourself that you can be sad tomorrow. When tomorrow comes, it will then be today…which means that we no longer have to be sad. Smile and watch people’s curiosity spark. Let them know that things are different, things are real and you are unique. You are you. Take it or leave it; you don’t need it unless you love it. My brother advised me that. ” there is love and there is lust. The two cannot go together and only love can stand alone. Patience is for the worthy.”
One day when I was down and feeling like a nobody, I looked into the mirror and told myself, “today, it is all about ME .” I talked to myself (and responded) while driving by myself. I told myself how pretty the fields were, the birds were and complained about the crazy drivers then; I zestfully agreed with myself. I took myself out to eat and even watched a movie all by myself. I wrote myself a note to read when I woke up, “I had a fabulous time today, let’s do this again.” I did that three weekends in a row and I really, I mean really liked myself. I got to remember who I was and how much fun I was.
After a couple of weekends, people noticed how happy I was and my confidence became such a huge magnet. Guys were coming up to me and telling me that I was, “amazing”, “I rocked”, and “I really knew where it was at.” The latter was my favorite and I will never forget his face. Men noticed me and I had my pick of men. It felt good and I enjoyed just being single. Why? Because, I didn’t need someone to make me feel special. I really felt like a celebrity but mostly with myself. We are all celebrities waiting to come out. We may not have paparazzi but we have ourselves, always: True selves that we can always count on.
So starting today: Say hello to yourself, talk to yourself (you can even respond to yourself in the mirror … don’t be shy), say good morning and good night to yourself in the mirror every day. You can even send yourself an e-card and joke about it to your friends. Maybe you could rub off on them. Do something for yourself today and smile because you have a pretty execeptional, trustworthy and rockin’ friend with you always: YOURSELF! Notice YOURSELF! Just think about it: If you had yourself for a friend; it would be pretty cool, huh?

Monday’s agenda:

Hmmm…
What to do???

Watch K-Dramas while, eating ramen and kimchi?…
Watch endless YouTube with my reading glasses on and the TV off…or….
Just drive thru Whattaburger, drive thru Starbucks (while wearing my Walmart attire) and then retire to the couch for long nap.

If decisions are discipline…I’ve already lost.
If this is discipline…I’m a Master. All are welcome here.
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